In honour of my beautiful son’s birthday (22
October) I thought it would only be fitting to share some of the lessons
motherhood has taught me. Being a mother has certainly been an interesting
journey to say the least and no two days are exactly the same. You have to be beyond patient and a sense of
humour is essential. Here are a few other things I have learned from being a
mother.
· With motherhood comes a whole set of new uncertainties.
From what formula to use; to are you being strict enough as a parent? You’ll
worry every second that your child is out of your sight and at times it will
become so scary/ frustrating /tiring that you’ll probably want to cry
several times a day. You can’t do it all on your own. It’s ok to need and
accept help from people you trust.
· Going to the toilet will become a sacred,
cherished affair. Enjoy going alone while you can. Children have absolutely no
problem hanging out with you while you do your business.
· You will have to learn and remember the names of
all Dora’s friends (plus the meaning of a few Spanish words). Questions will be
asked and if you don’t want your credibility doubted in the future, you better
know the answers.
· It’s perfectly fine to bribe your child every
now and then to get them to do something. Yes, you always want to be in charge
but sometimes it’s just not worth the struggle. You have to choose your battles
wisely.
· There comes a time when they don’t listen to you
at all, about anything. Don’t take it personally; it has nothing to do with who
you are as a parent.
· Having conversations about poop will become
completely acceptable and not at all cringe worthy.
·
Children are undoubtedly like sponges. They
observe and copy so much of who we are as parents. Be careful how you talk to
and react to your child. This is how they will eventually talk to and treat
others.
· There is no right or wrong way to parent. What
works for you, other parents might find unorthodox. That’s all right; we all
want our children to be confident individuals so we can’t possibly use someone
else’s blueprint for parenting.
· This one I learned the hard way. You will spend
a ton of money on expensive toys and your child ends up enjoying tupperware and
empty boxes more. Sometimes I tend to go overboard with buying things that my
son couldn’t care less about.
· Don’t worry about whether you are doing things
right. The most important thing you can do is be present. Life passes us by so
fast and the last thing you want is to regret not living in the moment and
treasuring the little things.
Motherhood is the most fun I have
had all my life and I look forward to making new discoveries and learning new
lessons as the years go by. Happy Birthday Xylon. You are the love of my life
and the reason I smile every day.