Why am I always tired? As an adult, this is a question I frequently ask myself. No amount of sleep or self care can take the feeling away. Am I doing something wrong? I have been struggling to feel at least somewhat human over the last two years. I feel like the pandemic has taken everything from me, but I have personally been facing a bigger pandemic: I have no boundaries.
As a mom, being a caretaker comes naturally, but I feel my issue goes back even further than that. As the oldest sibling, I was always making sure my brother was taken care of. This is just what older siblings do. As soon as said sibling grows up or can take care of themselves, you kind of just latch onto someone new to take care of. My problem is that I don't stop. If I don't take care of somebody, I need to take care of something. In other words, doing nothing really doesn't sit well with me. I am not sure how many of you can relate, but I feel really guilty whenever I find myself with nothing to do or simply just resting. This has been coming back to bite me in the ass lately. Like I said, I am always tired.
The last few weeks I have really been trying to be a little more selfish in terms of how I allocate my time, and how much of it I spend taking care of myself. Something needs to change drastically. I will probably always feel the urge to take care of the people I love no matter how old they are, but I need to dial it back a bit before my cup runs empty.
How I am going to do this? I am not sure. So I hope you were not expecting some sort of resolution in this post. I just needed to admit, out loud and on paper, that I lack boundaries. I am aware of that now. The next few weeks I going to actively look for ways to pour back into myself. Whatever that looks like.
TILL LATER, LAUREN!
13 comments:
I know the feeling of always being busy. We have to make time for ourselves. Great post!
I appreciate the kind comment. Thank you for reading :)
I appreciate the honesty in this post and your comment about always feeling tired, despite all the self care and sleep REALLY hit home because that's absolutely how I feel sometimes. Although I'm not a Mother, I think we all need to really hone in on our boundaries and take time for ourselves without feeling guilty for others x
I totally agree. It's a work in progress and we just have to keep choosing ourselves everyday. Thank you so much for reading :)
This is such a relatable post! I've been feeling super tired recently too so I'm really sorry you're feeling like that - I guess you have to make the time to put yourself first sometimes! Thank you so much for sharing x
I'm really glad you could relate. It really helps knowing that I'm not the only person going through it. Thank you for reading :)
Hi Lauren.
Well, you've already done the most difficult part - you've identified that there is an issue. Having done that I'm sure that you'll be able to find a solution that works for you.
What may work is setting aside a specific 'me time' each day - let's say that it's 19:30 each evening for half an hour. Every day at that time switch off your mobile phone, unplug your landline phone (if you still have one!), and do something for you that you enjoy, be that reading a book, doing a crossword, writing a blog post ;-) Make it a habit.
This is great advice and I will definitely try my best to establish some sort of routine. Thank you for taking the time read and comment :)
This is very thought-provoking! Boundaries are definitely an aspect of life/self-care that is so important to have (alongside self-awareness which then helps us create them). Thanks for sharing your experiences!
Love your writing. Very poignant. Please do read my post on boundaries and let me know how you feel about it :)
https://lettingoffsteam.wixsite.com/website/post/our-boundaries-vs-the-real-connections
Thank you for reading. I will definitely check out your post:)
Yes, I find myself putting more than enough energy into my family and work sometimes too. To have that inner-awareness and inner-intuition reminder saying,'its time to manage and transform our energy now' for clearing, cleansing, and filtering out low density energies (on a daily basis) we absorb in our aura, and for continued self-healing, rejuvenation, and many times enlightenment is necessary to receive. We learn something like you mentioned before; set boundaries and self-care. As well, fill up our cup with self-love first then we can pour from ours; for someone else.
Exactly! Thank you so much for reading and commenting :)
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